Go and find a coach.

If you want the transformation—if you can imagine it, if you can see it—but you're struggling with the daily consistency and frequency, you need external accountability. We're not talking about consistency for six months. We're talking about years. Can you be consistent and frequent for years and years? After setbacks. After success. After success again. After setback again. Can you be frequent and consistent when no one's watching? When it's hard? When it's easy? When you're happy? When you're sad? When things are going your way? When you're triggered? When you're depressed?

The Three Variables

Consistency and frequency are expressed by your ability, in your waking hours, to execute a certain activity at the highest quality possible—regardless of friction. We cannot control emotional and psychological friction. But we can objectively measure whether something is done, not done, or delayed. The delay is the glitch in consistency and frequency.

You might be consistent and frequent in one thing and completely unable to execute something else. You're running on empty—no emotional field, no psychological field left. But that something else is where your life changes. If that something else compounds—if you stay consistent with it—the thing you're struggling with today will shrink. The positive thing will grow. You'll get out of the rut. The thing that matters most to compound is often the thing we don't have energy for anymore. We've taken care of so many other things. So go find a coach.

Why You Need a Coach

Go find someone who can be relentlessly accountable to you. Someone who cares for nothing else but this process being done. Someone whose business is you getting this process done. You're going to see huge change if you have someone completely outside of your internal world who only cares that you've executed that one thing you avoid.

If that's fitness and health—imagine the change if you have an hour and a half every day for four years. For five years. For ten years. How your life will completely change if you have someone who can put you in that state of mind regardless of what's happening. Your birthday. Someone's funeral. You lost a job. You got the job. Whatever happens—despite the big news in your life, despite the dips and highs—this person is going to make sure you have the frequency, the consistency, and the high quality at which you need to execute.

The Three Requirements

This person makes sure these three things exist:

1. Consistency — Showing up repeatedly

2. Frequency — Showing up often enough

3. Execution at high quality — Doing it properly

If you have consistency and frequency but fail to execute at high quality, you don't get the outcome you desire. If you execute at high quality but don't have consistency and frequency, you don't get the outcome. You get the outcome when all three variables are present at the same time.

The System as Surface

Go find the coach. Go find the system. Without the system, you can't walk. It's like walking without a path. Like walking in the air. There's nowhere to put your feet. You can't put one foot in front of the other if you don't have a surface to stand on.

That surface is that other person who creates the structure. Someone outside of you. Something very tangible. Something very real. Go and find a real person you can wrestle with. Who can confront you. Who cares about the process.

Whatever that process is, go and earn that person's respect by showing up properly. By becoming excellent. By wanting that excellence. That person is going to confront you with topics. Ask you questions that you need to answer. Questions you need to wrestle with. Questions that demand the most amount of energy out of you.

Why It Must Be Real

If you want to change—if you want your potential to be realized, to be fulfilled—you need to wrestle with that process. And that is demanding. That's not fun. That's not entertaining. That is not easy. That's why you need a real human being. Not through the screen. A real human being to wrestle with.

Go find a coach.

The Mentor Principle